Have you ever had an expectation of another person? To expect them to act a certain way, be a certain way, show up in a certain way?

For them to be compassionate, understanding, loving, caring, organized, etc.?

I found expectation to be so very heavy to carry. If it’s so hard for me to carry for myself, can you imagine how hard it must be for others? They must feel the density of the energy even if they aren’t fully aware of, understand or “know” what we’re asking of them.

Imagine if we told others verbally all the things we expect from them.

Pema Chodren said that when she began to awaken, she had realized she didn’t really ”know” many things she thought she had known. She said compassion was different to her. She experienced the definition of it differently.

I went through this, too. Like awakening to a deeper understanding of all the things we once “thought” we knew.

More depth to the things we know.

I’m convinced this unraveling into depth of knowing more of “what we think we know” is endless.

We can only ever speak from what we know right now.

The way we understand right now.

Expectation is one of these things, at least for me.

I unknowingly expected my father to be by my side in life. A good man raising me into a woman.

I unknowingly expected my sister to grow old with me.

I unknowingly expected my daughter to never be hurting.

I expected them to give me those things and if they couldn’t, I expected it from life itself.

Expectation is what caused the hurt. Accepting what is, is what healed the pain.

Expectation can ruin relationships.

Expecting relationships to be a certain way.

Expecting people to be a certain way.

Expecting life to be a certain way weighs heavy on life.

Unfortunately, we confuse expectation with birthright.

Birthrights are the unlimited frequencies we have access to.

Expectations is what we learned from the movies we saw on screen and those happening around us.

Lora Perry